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ā€˜60 Songs That Explain the ā€™90sā€™: Bonnie Raitt Knows Love (and Heartbreak)

on May 18, 2022 No comments
By Rob Harvilla

Bonnie Raitt has been a lot of thingsā€”a blues singer, a rock singer, arguably a jazz singer, occasionally a country singer, and eventually a blockbuster pop singerā€”and on ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me,ā€ she pronounced herself the purveyor of a timeless, wrenching classic

Grunge. Wu-Tang Clan. Radiohead. ā€œWonderwall.ā€ The music of the ā€™90s was as exciting as it was diverse. But what does it say about the eraā€”and why does it still matter? 60 Songs That Explain the ā€™90s is back for 30 more episodes to try to answer those questions. Join Ringer music writer and ā€™90s survivor Rob Harvilla as he treks through the soundtrack of his youth, one song (and embarrassing anecdote) at a time. Follow and listen for free exclusively on Spotify. In Episode 63 of 60 Songs That Explain the ā€™90sā€”yep, you read that rightā€”weā€™re breaking down Bonnie Raittā€™s timeless ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me.ā€

Bonnie Raitt was born in Burbank, California, in 1949. She put out her first album, called Bonnie Raitt, in 1971, when she was 21 years old. Then she put out eight more records. Letā€™s call this Phase 1. But right from the very beginning of Phase 1, boy could Bonnie Raitt sing the bejesus out of the word love.

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But you canā€™t sing the bejesus out of the word love like that if love hasnā€™t already kicked your ass a whole bunch of times.

Thatā€™s from her debut album. Itā€™s an old blues ballad called ā€œSince I Fell for You.ā€ It rules. You know the song ā€œGet Yourself Another Foolā€ by Sam Cooke? On Sam Cookeā€™s Night Beat record. Look into that one. Unbelievable. At 21 years old Bonnieā€™s already starting to operate on that level of poise and gravitas and pathos. Phase 1 of Bonnie Raitt comprises nine records in 15 years. No huge blockbuster chart-topping albums. No breakout singles. Just a steady and healthy and for quite a while a sustainable career bolstered by the fact that one day sheā€™d write a songā€”itā€™s the last song actually on her 10th album, which will formally kick off Phase 2ā€”called ā€œThe Roadā€™s My Middle Name.ā€

Bonnie ā€œThe Roadā€ Raitt. Put out solid records and tour your ass off. Thatā€™s Bonnieā€™s foundational idea. Another foundational idea: flexibility. She is a blues singer, and a rock singer, and arguably a jazz singer, and occasionally a country singer, and eventually a blockbuster pop singer. But for the first decade and a half, without any outrageous pop success, she enjoys what sheā€™ll later call ā€œa parallel careerā€ to pop in a genre she once described to Stereogum like this: ā€œThereā€™s a format that always plays me, which theyā€™ve called 10 different names over the years.ā€ And then she lists some of those names: roots music. Americana. AOR: Album-oriented rock. She can be folk. She can be folk rock. She can be Southern rock. Honorary Southern rock. Yeesh. Donā€™t get hung up on any of this. Donā€™t be like me. Focus on the poise, the gravitas, the pathos, the hard-earned wisdom. Focus on her voice.

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This is a song Bonnie wrote called ā€œNothing Seems to Matter.ā€ Dope ā€œMaggie Mayā€ vibes here. Itā€™s on her second album, Give It Up, from 1972, which starts with another song Bonnie wrote called ā€œGive It Up or Let Me Go.ā€ The let me go is crucial. Donā€™t waste my time is a central theme of Bonnie Raittā€™s love songs, notably, but the slightly risque nature of the phrase Give It Up is worth noting as well, I suppose.

If Bonnie Raitt first came to your attention in the late ā€™80s or early ā€™90sā€”which appeared to be the case for millions of people, some of whom were Grammy votersā€”then it might very well be that your first impression of her was as a 40-year-old veteran rock star on, like, her 11th album. Bonnie was one of this eraā€™s great comeback stories, though sheā€™s joked that calling it a comeback implies that sheā€™d ever been a huge star to begin with. But one of the real joys of doing a Bonnie Raitt deep dive now, of luxuriating in Phase 1, is you get to experience her as a younger, presumably much wilder person, as a 20-something flamethrower in the 1970s trying to drink various old blues legends under the table, and succeeding.

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This songā€™s called ā€œGuilty.ā€ From her third album, Takinā€™ My Time, in 1973. A melancholy horn section followed Bonnie Raitt everywhere she went for most of the ā€™70s, just in case she broke into song in the bathroom or something.

I hope she shared the cocaine with the horn section. She probably did. She seems like a super-nice lady. The silver-white streak, in Bonnieā€™s hairā€”if youā€™re like me, you even hear the name Bonnie Raitt and you picture her shrouded in this elegant, roaring campfire of deep red hair, with a silver-white streak in the middle, right? She says that streak started coming in naturally when she was 24, and by 1981 the streak was expanding while the red was fading, so she started dying her hair, but around the streak, to protect it, because as she told Parade magazine once, ā€œIā€™ve been told it means youā€™ve been kissed by an angel.ā€ That white streak is a bit on-the-nose, as metaphors go, yes? For a young instant-classic blues singer, for an old soul, for a masterful song interpreter whoā€™d only just hit her mid-20s. Itā€™s like she manifested that streak. Her fourth album, Streetlights, from 1974, thatā€™s the one with her cover of John Prineā€™s ā€œAngel From Montgomery.ā€ Holy moley.

Listen, John Prine is John Prine, and Iā€™m not gonna sit here and tell you that anybody can outā€“John Prine John Prine, but I do think Bonnie Raitt sings these lines with a singularly electrifying sense of exasperation.

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So apparently this time out I am disinclined to inundate you with other artists and other songs, for whimsical and discursive purposes, and I am trying to honor my impulse to not indulge my usual whimsical discursive impulses, but it might just be that I got quite entranced by Phase 1 Bonnie Raitt. We might gotta speed this up. Let me briefly direct your attention, though, to her fifth album, from 1975, called Home Plate. First of all, the Home Plate album cover does indeed feature an exuberant Bonnie Raitt sliding into home plate, and I say to you now, with affection, that her sliding form is terrible, like sheā€™s way out in front of home plate, which by the way appears to be shaped incorrectlyā€”the sides are much longer than regulationā€”and her one leg is way too high, as though she is trying to kick the catcher in the face. Terrible sliding form, great album cover. And perhaps sheā€™s trying to spike the catcher because the catcher is the gentleman to whom she directs the piano-driven heartbroken love song ā€œMy First Night Alone Without You.ā€

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Piano-driven heartbroken love songs being somewhat of a Bonnie Raitt specialty, at this point, if you go in for, yā€™know, foreshadowing. The aching in her head might also be caused by whiskey, or cocaine, or the concussion she received from poorly sliding into home plate.

Itā€™s weird, though, to have zero digressions, isnā€™t it? Is this too streamlined? Are you familiar with this show? If so, do you feel like you clicked on the wrong thing? Youā€™re right. What about just one other Bonnie Raittā€“caliber American icon, with a career running parallel to hers, just for reference, just to see what that double helix looks like? Letā€™s try this. Another deified singer-songwriter. Another old soul steeped in the blues without getting all pompous and Blueshammer-y about it. Also from California. Born in Pomona. Thatā€™s close! Bonnieā€™s from Burbank. Thatā€™s like a 40-minute drive! It probably isnā€™t. Thatā€™s just what Google Maps says. Itā€™s probably like four hours. (My editor chimed in here to say, ā€œOnly a madman would do this drive.ā€ There you go. Come to me with all your questions about Los Angeles geography.) Whatever. It doesnā€™t matter how long the drive is. This is gonna go great.

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You recognize that voice? No? Yeah, I donā€™t blame ya. OK. Look at how well this works, actually. Also born in 1949. Heā€™s less than a month younger than Bonnie Raitt. Also started kicking around in 1971 or so. OK, weā€™re doing it. This guy. This guy who also appears to be dealing with a ā€œMy First Night Alone Without Youā€ā€“type situation.

The first Tom Waits studio album is called Closing Time, from 1973, heā€™s sitting at a dimly lit piano looking world-historically pensive and poetic, very similar vibe and lighting scheme to Bonnie Raitt on the cover of her first album, except sheā€™s smiling; if youā€™re willing to put a bed and a piano in the same room you can imagine that theyā€™re actually sitting in the same room, and Bonnieā€™s reclined there, somewhat amused, listening to her morose pal Tom pensively plinking at a piano. But letā€™s not belabor this comparison. This songā€™s called ā€œMartha.ā€ Itā€™s the single best heartbroken piano ballad of the 1970s. Itā€™s the ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ of its era.

To hear the full episode click here, and be sure to follow on Spotify and check back every Wednesday for new episodes on the most important songs of the decade. This excerpt has been lightly edited for clarity and length.

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ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ : A 25th Anniversary Oral History
The Backstory Of A Modern Standard

on October 27, 2016 No comments

by Ryan Leas

The year Bonnie Raitt turned 40, she became a pop star.

Judging against most peopleā€™s careers, Raitt had already lived a pretty full life. There were a bunch of records in her discography; she had been dropped by Warner Bros.; she had gotten sober. She already had a story. Having been performing and releasing music since the early ā€™70s, she had gradually accrued devoted fans and critical praise, though little commercial success on a mainstream level. Itā€™s strange to think about, for those of us who grew up with Raitt as one of the legendary names, one of the big established artists of the Baby Boomer generation. Yet at one point in time, she didnā€™t have songs that were played on pop radio. She didnā€™t have songs that youā€™d hear in any given situation as you wandered through your daily routine. She didnā€™t have that ubiquity that comes with superstardom. That changed in 1989, when she released Nick Of Time.

Nick Of Time marked the first time Raitt had worked with producer Don Was and engineer Ed Cherney on one of her records, a partnership that would continue for years. She and Was had first connected in ā€™88, when the two of them worked on a song called ā€œBaby Mineā€ from Dumbo, for a compilation called Stay Awake: Various Interpretations Of Music From Vintage Disney Films. Despite the inherently odd nature of that collaboration, the two really clicked. ā€œI felt like Iā€™d known her all my life,ā€ Was recalls. ā€œI just felt a real bond with her.ā€ With Raitt wanting a particular kind of producer ā€” a musicianā€™s producer, the kind who says ā€œThatā€™s the take!ā€ but doesnā€™t enforce a particular stylistic vision on an artist when they already know what they want ā€” Was made an ideal partner in crime. They decided to work on her next album together.

Hearing them speak of it now, the process of making Nick Of Time almost sounds like a young, scrappy artist trying to break down the door into the industry. Raitt had some demos, and no record deal. They continued working on demos in Wasā€™ basement, never imagining that they were crafting the album that would garner Raitt a belated commercial breakthrough. They just wanted to make back the money they spent on it, so that they could make another record after it. Was recalls a moment when Raittā€™s A&R man, Tim Devine, came to talk to him after Nick Of Time was completed. ā€œHe came down to the studio and he said something like, ā€˜Better get a tuxedo, youā€™re going to the Grammys!ā€™ I wanted to punch him,ā€ Was remembers, laughing. ā€œI thought, ā€˜OK, man, just say itā€™s good. Just say you dug it. But forget the hyperbole.’ā€

In the end, it wasnā€™t hyperbolic at all ā€” the record was already selling well beyond any of their expectations, and then, just under a year after Nick Of Time came out, it won the Album Of The Year award at the 1990 Grammys. ā€œWhen that happens, itā€™s just the fucking greatest,ā€ Cherney says. ā€œIt came out of nowhere. We knew we made a good record, but that kind of accoladesā€¦it came out of nowhere for us.ā€

When it came time to follow that success, Raitt once again worked with Was and Cherney for the record that would become 1991ā€™s Luck Of The Draw. Despite Raittā€™s sudden mainstream clout, none of them describe the time as particularly pressurized. There wasnā€™t necessarily a weight to following up the biggest record of Raittā€™s career thus far. They were just making some more music together, and looking for the right material. ā€œWhen you get the right people who really vibe with each other, you donā€™t have to say much at all,ā€ Raitt says. ā€œItā€™s all about respecting each otherā€™s artistry. Itā€™s getting out of the way and letting a moment happen. Itā€™s all about a great song, and thatā€™s what we got.ā€

Luck Of The Draw wound up surpassing even the heights reached by Nick Of Time. Part of that was thanks to its lead single, ā€œSomething To Talk About.ā€ Thatā€™s the kind of song that gives you super-stardom ubiquity; thatā€™s a Bonnie Raitt song you hear everywhere. But there was another one, too, one that shouldnā€™t have been a major radio hit yet became one anyway. That was ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me,ā€ which was released as a single on 10/22/1991.

Hereā€™s the thing about ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ thatā€™s different than Raittā€™s other hits: It goes beyond her own success with that single and Luck Of The Draw. It goes beyond its constant and sustained presence on Adult Contemporary and soft-rock stations. It goes beyond its exact circumstance and era. Itā€™s written in a way where you can reduce it to one instrument and vocal, and it still works; which, in turn, means you can adapt it into almost any genre, and it will still work. In the mold of old pop standards, itā€™s malleable, universal, and enduring because of that ā€” and because itā€™s a song that resonated (and continues to resonate) with a ton of people, no matter their age group or musical predilections. More than ubiquity, this is the kind of stuff that gets woven into the atmosphere, lingering in our collective pop consciousness until others grab onto it and give it their own spin. If its lifespan over the last quarter-century is any indication, it will remain there, continuing to impact young listeners and inspire new artists well after the story of Raittā€™s version fades further into our memory.

So, on the occasion of its anniversary, we decided it to tell that story, to go back to the origins of a popular song by a major artist, of a song that started as a surprising pop hit and became a standard. Over the course of several weeks, we spoke with Raitt, Was, Cherney, songwriters Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin, Bruce Hornsby (who played the crucial piano part on ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€). We spoke to some of the people on the (very) long list of famous artists who have covered the song. Hereā€™s the story of how ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ came together and how it became what it is today.

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ : A 25th Anniversary Oral History The Backstory Of A Modern Standard

From left: Don Was, Allen Shamblin, Bonnie Raitt, and Mike Reid

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ was the product of a collaboration between songwriters Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin. Both men were living in Nashville and writing songs for country artists (though Reid was also releasing music under his own name at the time) and both had found success so far, scoring significant hits on the country charts. After meeting at Austin City Limits one year, a mutual admiration for each otherā€™s work spurred a partnership between the two. Around the time they were writing ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me,ā€ Reid and Shamblin had been working together for about a year, writing almost weekly. Everyone remembers the genesis of ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ a little differently, but hereā€™s what everyone agrees on: It was rooted in a local Nashville story Reid saw in the newspaper, and it was originally a much, much different song.

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MIKE REID (SONGWRITER): I donā€™t believe that spirits whisper song titles or stuff into writersā€™ ears. I just donā€™t buy that. But I do believe that there are thingsā€¦Iā€™m not sure the ideas live in us as much as the ideas are in the world, the world is full of ideas. Do we slow ourselves down enough to see them and express them? That idea came out of a newspaper article and I think it was in the world and I happened to pay attention to it enough, mentioned it to a buddy, Allen Shamblin, and off we went, you know?

ALLEN SHAMBLIN (SONGWRITER): The newspaper story. Mike and I both agree on the newspaper, we just have a little bit different memory of what was said in the story that sparked the song. To me, it doesnā€™t matter, you know what Iā€™m saying? Mike and I, we laugh about it. Itā€™s not who wrote what or thought of what, itā€™s what got written, and weā€™re both cool about all that. I think he remembers it about a guy shooting a car.

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ : A 25th Anniversary Oral History The Backstory Of A Modern Standard

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REID: I remember it being an article about higher-up local politicianā€™s black sheep brother getting tanked on moonshine and shooting up a car, whether it was his wifeā€™s or his girlfriendā€™s car. And so, there was an actual phrase in the article. He said to the judge, ā€œIā€™ve learned that if a woman donā€™t love ya, you canā€™t make herā€¦you canā€™t make her love ya.ā€ The idea came out of that.

SHAMBLIN: The way I remember what was said in the story, there was a guy living under a bridge, somewhere close to downtown Nashville, and in the story, he said his wife came to pick him up, under the bridge, and took him down to the courthouse to get a divorce. And he said, ā€œWe hugged, and we cried, and then we went through the divorce.ā€ And he said, ā€œYou know, you just canā€™t make a woman love you.ā€

REID: Because we were, quote, ā€œprofessional songwritersā€ who thought we knew what we were doing, we wrote that song as an uptempo bluegrass song. [laughs]

SHAMBLIN: It was very bluegrass, uptempo, kind of a bouncy melody.

REID: Ricky Skaggs was having hits at the time and I thought, ā€œThat sounds like a Ricky Skaggs idea.ā€ So we started and got those two lines: ā€œI canā€™t make you love me if you donā€™t/ You canā€™t make your heart feel something it wonā€™t.ā€ Itā€™s interesting, because no matter what we did, we couldnā€™t get it any further than that. So we would stop and move on to another song. But we would always come back to it.

SHAMBLIN: I remember we worked on it over March and I came over to Mikeā€™s house one day. His writing room was in his basement and he said, ā€œCome upstairs, I want to play you something.ā€ Upstairs, he had this beautiful grand piano and he started playing just the melody of ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ on his piano. I started to get chills just listening to the music. He didnā€™t tell me what it was to or anything and then he circled around and started singing the chorus that weā€™d already written over the new melody. I was just slayed.

Because we were, quote, ā€˜professional songwritersā€™ who thought we knew what we were doing, we wrote that song as an uptempo bluegrass song.

REID: I had an old piano teacher who was a real stickler about improvisation. The lesson always ended with some improvisation. So I would play everyday and improvise and I happened to have the tape recorder on and out that whole first verse came. Unrelated, by the way, to the idea. Iā€™m not a very fast writer. Iā€™m very slow. But sometimes you get chunks of things. And that whole thing came out, and I was kind of in that zone, out of my own way, when the line ā€œDonā€™t patronize meā€ came out. And I immediately thought, ā€œOh, you canā€™t say that in a song.ā€ And the minute I thought, ā€œYou canā€™t say that,ā€ I came out of that zone and I was back into my own stupid songwriting self. So thatā€™s as much as I had. I hadnā€™t even thought about the uptempo version. But somewhere in that day, I began to connect that phrase ā€œI canā€™t make you love meā€ with that verse. And at that point, I thought, ā€œHmmā€ because when that verse came out, a lot of that melody came out, too. So I called Allen and I said, ā€œAllen, what are you doing? Come on over!ā€ and he came over and we said, ā€œYeah, this seems to work. As weird as that is, it seems to work.ā€

SHAMBLIN: After we finished the song, Mike didnā€™t demo it for weeks, if not months, and I knew ā€” at least I felt ā€” that it was the best song I had ever been a part of in my life, and I think Mike felt strongly about it, too. I kept saying, ā€œMike, have you done a demo of it yet?ā€ and he said, ā€œNo, Iā€™m not emotionally up to it.ā€ He said, ā€œWhen I sit down, I really gotta be emotionally up to it.ā€ And then one day, he called and said, ā€œI got it.ā€ So I immediately dropped everything and rode over to his house and listened to that. I was knocked out. So thatā€™s what he sent Bonnie, just a piano and vocal.

Mike Reidā€™s demo for the song, made public for the first timeā€¦

After opening some shows for her in the late ā€™70s and contributing a song to Nick Of Time, Reid had become friendly with Raitt. When he finally got the demo for ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me,ā€ he sent a cassette and a handwritten note to her PO box address.

REID: I remember when we finished the day, saying this specifically to Allen: ā€œAllen, there are only three places I can think of to go with this song. Bette Midler, Linda Ronstadt, or Bonnie Raitt.ā€

SHAMBLIN: My publisher asked me, ā€œWho do yā€™all hear it for?ā€ Halfway through the writing of the song, [Mike and I] had a long conversation about Bonnie. I said, ā€œWeā€™re thinking Bonnie Raitt or ā€¦ we donā€™t know.ā€ I think I mightā€™ve even said Rod Stewart. I definitely was thinking somebody pop, outside of Nashville. But really, Bonnie was the focus.

REID: It took me a while to demo that thing. I just tried and I couldnā€™t find the emotion in the thing. It took me a good six weeks.

BONNIE RAITT (SINGER): I heard through the musiciansā€™ community what a great singer and songwriter [Mike] was, so I had his solo album and thatā€™s where I got the first song [ā€œToo Soon To Tell,ā€ from Nick Of Time]. And we became friends after Nick Of Time and he and Allen sent [ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€] to me first and I was just knocked out at his own demo of it, because Iā€™m a fan of the way he sings.

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ : A 25th Anniversary Oral History The Backstory Of A Modern Standard

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REID: I worked in a dark basement and I had a phone line down there. Iā€™m down there working, and my wife sticks her head in and says, ā€œHey, youā€™re gonna get a call, donā€™t screen it. Pick it up.ā€ The phone rang and it was Bonnie. We talked for a long time, just about life. My memory is that she wasnā€™t immediately ā€œYes, yes, yes, Iā€™m gonna record that.ā€ She had a spot for a ballad on that record and there was another song that she loved and I know the song and itā€™s a truly great song. So she said, ā€œWould you mind giving me a hold on that?ā€ and I said, ā€œNo, absolutely not, of course.ā€ That means youā€™re not gonna show it to anybody else.

SHAMBLIN: A couple weeks later, I came in to [Hayes Street Music, my publisher] and everybody was excited and I said, ā€œWhatā€™s going on?ā€ Back then, we had voicemail. It was a phone call from Bonnie. She had called late the night before and said, ā€œI heard ā€˜I Canā€™t Make You Love Me.ā€™ Please tell Mike and Allen that I love the song and I think I want to record it.ā€ I actually still have that recording of that voicemail in my basement in a box [laughs]. Yeah, itā€™s one of the most exciting things that have happened to me.

RAITT: I knew it was a really special song and the most special one I was going to be able to record.

DON WAS (CO-PRODUCER): Bonnie got it and played it for me, and you just knew, you know? It was beautiful. If you heard Mikeā€™s demo, it lays the groundwork for the way we treat it. He had these kind of Celtic voicings that he does on the piano that just ā€” that alone will make you cry, forget the lyrical content [laughs].

RAITT: ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ was so clear to me, the match of my way of singing and my way of approaching that music ā€” Mike and Allen and I were completely in sync on that one. So he could have sent it to any number of people, but Iā€™m really grateful that because of my connection with him ā€” and because Iā€™m such a fan of the way he sings and the way he writes, and of Allenā€™s too ā€” I was really grateful he sent it to me first.

REID: How often in your songwriting life do you have the absolute perfect artist record the song?

Raitt had teamed up with Was and engineer Ed Cherney once more for Luck Of The Draw. They worked on ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ in what was then known as Ocean Way Recordings, but has since returned to its original name United Recording Studios. Itā€™s a studio loaded with history: Coltrane, Madonna, Sinatra, Michael Jackson. The list goes on. For Raitt, the crew was small while working on ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ ā€” her, Was, Cherney, her bassist James ā€œHutchā€ Hutchinson, Tony Braunagel on drums, and Bruce Hornsby guesting on piano.

WAS: It was in Studio B, where Sinatra cut ā€œIt Was A Very Good Yearā€ and a lot of his great songs. His office Reprise Records was upstairs. It still looks essentially the way it did in the sixties.

BRUCE HORNSBY (PIANIST): I played on a Bob Dylan record in the same room and a Bob Seger record as well.

WAS: Itā€™s one of the great rooms of all time but it was a chaotic afternoon. Lenny Kravitz was in the front room. Someone was trying to do like, another ā€œWe Are The Worldā€ in Studio A in the front.

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ : A 25th Anniversary Oral History The Backstory Of A Modern Standard

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RAITT: I knew that I didnā€™t want anybody else in the room while I was singing. I canā€™t perform if people are standing there watching me, so when weā€™re cutting tracks, itā€™s just the engineers and me, itā€™s not like a party.

WAS: There were all these people, all these artists that were running around, crowding the hallway, and people were wandering down who knew Bonnie.

RAITT: I found out afterwards there were other people that wanted to come in, but [Was] shushed them. I wouldnā€™t have been able to do a track with people watching. Itā€™s just too personal.

WAS: With Bonnie, we used to make demos of everything that either featured her playing the piano or her playing the guitar. We had this principle that if she couldnā€™t make the song work from one instrument, then having a band with a great arrangement wasnā€™t going to change things. So we only did songs where we cut one instrument demos that floored us. In the case of ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ she didnā€™t want to do that because there was something that she was going to tap into in her own life that we never discussed. She just wanted to do it one time and go into the truth, and she knew that would diminish with each subsequent take.

Aside from Raittā€™s vocal performance, the most celebrated and iconic element of the song is Bruce Hornsbyā€™s piano part. Raitt called Hornsby and asked him to play on it, to which he immediately agreed.

RAITT: I couldnā€™t think of anyone more amazing than Bruce Hornsby to play on it because Iā€™m as much a fan of him as I am of anybody. I mean, people have asked me ā€œIf you had one musician you could take on a desert islandā€¦ā€ It would absolutely be Bruce Hornsby. Thereā€™s just something about ā€” not to mention his great personality, how funky he is, and how his chops are incredible ā€” but the way he approaches ballads and the way that he voices chords and the way he plays just moves me like nobody else. There wasnā€™t any question in my mind.

HORNSBY: Bonnie called me and asked me to play on it and the only demo that existed in my memory was the songwriterā€™s demo, by Mike Reid. So it was very simple. She called me and asked me to be a part of it. Mike sent over the cassette.

I mean, people have asked me ā€˜If you had one musician you could take on a desert islandā€¦ā€™ It would absolutely be Bruce Hornsby.

ED CHERNEY (ENGINEER): The thing about the demo ā€¦ I knew we werenā€™t going to cut it like that. But there was that piano lick. I knew we were gonna base it around thatā€Øā€Ø.

HORNSBY: Thereā€™s a little lounge that was dark late at night before the session. I remember sitting with the piano in there and there was no one in the room, so I learned the song and I changed a bit of it.

CHERNEY: I donā€™t know how much I can say about how much trouble it was to get Bruce to play the goddamn lick. I donā€™t think we could get him to even listen to the demo.

WAS: It was kind of a point of contention for Bruce. He loved the song, but he didnā€™t want to listen to the demo. He wanted to find his own way into it. He didnā€™t want those songwritersā€™ guideposts. Which, most of the time, is a foolproof plan. But in this case, what Mike Reid had done on the piano was so ā€¦ it was just perfect, man. We went through it a couple of times, and we said, ā€œLook, no disrespect, but you really gotta listen to the demo.ā€ And of course, when he heard it, he knew exactly what was going on. Bruce added something incredible to it. He elevated it to a new level, but he built on the foundation of the [Reidā€™s] voicings and chords.

HORNSBY: I changed the chords around to suit my aesthetic or my style, I guess. I added my voicing to the mix. The way I move through the chords playing harmony ā€¦ Itā€™s more about moving voices underneath the melody, voices meaning other tones and other notes in the left hand. The left hand moving in harmony with the right hand melody. Itā€™s clearly heard on the record right away.

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CHERNEY: Finally, when we got him to listen to it, it came together. After he listened to the demo, as I recall, it came together in one take. It was a little like pulling teeth for a while. Sometimes you gotta be brave in the studio, and it just wasnā€™t coming together. But everybody kinda got it at the same moment.

HORNSBY: My memory is that I recorded it live, with the bass and the drums, on the electric keyboard that starts off the record. So I recorded the basic track and then I overdubbed the piano. It was a very quick session.

CHERNEY: What Bruce is playing out in the vamp, itā€™s just timeless. It took my breath away. When he got the part, it was a sigh of relief and it just made the whole thing coalesce. It happened so fast.

RAITT: I was thrilled that he put his own spin on it. I knew he would play it even if we played it almost exactly like the demo, but you donā€™t have someone like Bruce come and play on something and expect him to copy somebody, you know?

REID: Hornsby signed that thing like crazy and I am eternally grateful he did. The intro phrase was mine, certainly; that came with the writing of the song. The melody is the melody. But Bruce really took the intro and he articulated what I wrote. He did it through the Hornsby filter, which really kicked it up to another level.

SHAMBLIN: I thought [Bruceā€™s part] was transcendent. It was spiritual.

Once Hornsbyā€™s part came together, the sessions followed suit. ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ is essentially a piano and vocal song, akin to Reidā€™s original demo. When people speak of it ā€” particularly people who were involved in the making of the song ā€” they speak in awed tones about Raitt as a singer, and of her performance of this song specifically. As the story goes, she recorded it in one take.

HORNSBY: Like so many things that end up being timeless or iconic, it happened pretty quickly. I wasnā€™t there for long. We did a few takes with the trio, Bonnie singing and I did a take or two on the piano.

WAS: Itā€™s one take. I think that there were a couple of lines where she started crying so those were the only things that we had to go back and punch. Everything else was live as it happened.

RAITT: Itā€™s a pretty devastating song to sing more than once [laughs]. I mean, maybe other people can sing ballads more than once. I really waited to know that I was gonna be in there with Bruce, and we gave it a couple of stabs and there were things that werenā€™t working as well. We ended up bringing in Tony Braunagel, who played in my live band. He came in and had never even heard the song before, and he played some brushes and kept the beat. I just wanted to be able to sing to Bruce playing this beautiful song. I didnā€™t have a rule about it being one take, itā€™s just that we put so much into making that moment very special that there wasnā€™t any reason to do it again. Plus, I took me a minute to recover from how sad it was.

CHERNEY: I fucking cried. Iā€™ll tell you, I was in the control room. Don Was was in the control room, and I think her manager, Ron Stone was in the control room. I think it was just the three of us. And the first time we ran it down and she sang it live like that ā€¦ my heart went up to my throat and my eyes filled up with tears. It was so convincing, it was so real. I didnā€™t want Don and Ron to see me being such a schmuck, crying like that.

WAS: I will never forget that because I, you know ā€¦ truth is I get choked up thinking about it. It was so emotional on such a myriad of levels but it has to do with something that is very hard to describe in the tone of her voice. I mean the song could go to the morose really quickly, right? But there is a strength combined with a vulnerability. Thereā€™s still a sweetness in her voice. That is how I think of Bonnie too.

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CHERNEY: I could feel her soul when she sang it. It was just one of those moments where the studio disappears, and the whole world disappears, and all thatā€™s there is the emotion of that thing. As far as Iā€™m concerned, thatā€™s what great music and great art is. It just pulls you into the moment and the feeling and emotion of it. I felt like I could feel her heart.

WAS: Her performance was so vivid that I couldnā€™t separate. It was not performance to me. I got really choked up because I didnā€™t want Bonnie to suffer like that. It was like real life. It was like I was seeing something happen to the person I loved. Itā€™s really weird isnā€™t it? Itā€™s like not being able to separate an actor from a role that theyā€™re in.

CHERNEY: Itā€™s going down and Iā€™m whimpering like a little baby and I didnā€™t want Don to see me like that, but I do remember that the take was done and we were so moved that all three of us went in separate directions to gain our composure, because I think those two guys were affected the same way but we didnā€™t want each other to see that we were that soft or ā€¦ maybe a little embarrassed by it. I know I was. I kinda had to go out in the hall, I think I went outside for a few minutes to get my composure back.

RAITT: I knew at the time when I finished singing it that I thought we had it. You know it when you got it, especially when itā€™s a collaboration. Like what was going on with Bruce, where itā€™s performance. Itā€™s not just playing the song ā€” Iā€™m singing too, weā€™re playing off each other.

WAS: It wasnā€™t accidental. Itā€™s not like you stumbled on something. She knew how to inhabit the song and make it hers. It wasnā€™t something left up to chance, but it was monumental. I just knew that I was hearing one of the great vocal performances of all time. I knew it mainly because I couldnā€™t ā€¦ my reaction was ā€œShow me the guy who was doing this to you and I am going to fuck him up.ā€ I wanted to protect her.

REID: When I got it, I got in my truck and went down [to see Allen] and we put it in and we were surprised. We were thrilled that it was Bonnie and I knew Nick Of Time was her breakout album. I knew what it meant to have that woman sing something, you know? I donā€™t know that it exists anymore. Through various generations, there are artists that validated you as a writer. Iā€™m sure in the Fifties, if you got a Frank Sinatra or Tony Bennett cut, it was, ā€œMy God!ā€ Bonnie is an artist of that power. When Bonnie Raitt decided to sing something, whether or not it was a single release or what, it just made you feel more like a writer.

After they got the basic recording done, they set about adding overdubs and embellishments to the song. (One of those that remains on the track was a Hammond B-3 organ part courtesy of Tom Petty & The Heartbreakersā€™ Benmont Tench.) As they tried to finalize the song, they knew something was off now. Eventually, they realized they needed to strip the track of many of the overdubs theyā€™d layered onto it.

REID: Allen and I were surprised because the record was so sparse. I ā€” in my whorish, commercial part of me ā€” thought it would be ā€œWind Beneath My Wingsā€ ā€¦ a big, giant production.

CHERNEY: Pretty much the way we had mixed it was the instruments on the floor that afternoon. We put some percussion on it, we did some background vocals with the guys from Was Not Was. I remember when I mixed it, I was alone at Conway Studios in Studio City. I had tried to mix it and I had tried to keep all the elements we had recorded, thinking, well, ā€œWe want all these things.ā€ But it was never feeling as emotional as that [first] time. It was one of those LA rainstorms. It was pouring rain that night. I nailed the mix that night, I knew I had it. I had been wrestling with it, because I kept trying to use all the elements and finally just getting rid of everything and going back to that original thing. I think it was probably about four in the morning, raining, and I was alone. It was just one of those nights. I remember just being drained. I knew that I got it because I got to that sadness again. [laughs]

REID: [It was] unquestionably more powerful. Look, thereā€™s no way around the fact that itā€™s a song of intimacy. This is an intimate song, and to do anything else to it other than that ā€¦ Don told me ā€” I donā€™t know if heā€™d remember saying this to me ā€” that they had a lot more on that record and when they mixed it, they thought, ā€œMy God, what happened?ā€ And I said, ā€œWell, what did you do, Don?ā€ And he said, ā€œWe just started pulling faders down.ā€

CHERNEY: We started putting production on it. It took me a minute to figure out to get rid of all that stuff. It didnā€™t have that emotion anymore. I started hearing the work we were doing instead of the moment of somebody bearing that soul.

REID: At that point, [Was] taught me a great thing: He said, ā€œYou know, with an artist like Bonnie, everything you do on the record, everything you do as a producer, you have to ask yourself, ā€˜Is this gonna enable the listener to have more of an intimate relationship with this artist or is this gonna put something unnecessary between the listener and the artist?’ā€ Itā€™s such a smart observation. And there was nothing between the listener and her on that record.

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CHERNEY: All that other extemporaneous stuff got in the way of it. I was trying to get back to that feeling, that total feeling of empathy for her and that deep sadness, that deep feeling of that loss.

SHAMBLIN: I was knocked out. From listening to her previous album, I was expecting it to be more produced, you know? I donā€™t know how to say it. Bonnie served the song.

REID: It is a natural impulse to think that more is more. And it takes real balls, as those people had, to realize that more might be less.

Even with Raittā€™s surprising latter-day commercial success and even with other hit singles recently under her belt, ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ wasnā€™t exactly a song built to conquer the pop charts of 1991. Yet it became another significant pop hit in her career, hitting the Top 20 of the Billboard Hot 100.

RAITT: I donā€™t make records to see whether they get played on the radio. Thereā€™s a format that always plays me, which theyā€™ve called ten different names over the years, but itā€™s where Delbert McClinton or John Hiatt or John Prine or Emmylou Harris ā€¦ weā€™re now called Americana, the last fifteen years. Roots music artists, thereā€™s a whole bunch of us that got played on what would be called ā€œalbum-oriented rock.ā€ FM radio in the seventies started playing groups like mine and they donā€™t just play singles so I always had a parallel career before Nick Of Time hit.

WAS: I knew [ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€] was powerful but I also knew that it defied every convention of what a pop record was in 1991. Although we had experience with Nick Of Time, our goal was to make the money back and being able to get to a next album. So to sell seven or eight million of them ā€¦ it was so different from the popular music of that moment. It paid no respect to fashion whatsoever. So that was pretty shocking, but there just werenā€™t records like ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ on the radio then.

RAITT: The Grammy win pushed [Nick Of Time] over into the pop chart, so it made a huge difference, even though the record had sold a million even before the Grammys. Luck Of The Draw was the follow-up record and we had our first hit with ā€œSomething To Talk Aboutā€ and then the second single was ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me.ā€ So we already had a nice bed of crossover onto mainstream radio, and it didnā€™t impact how we cut the songs. I cut my music according to what feels and sounds good to me and thereā€™s always been a radio station that will play it.

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CHERNEY: I donā€™t recall us ever thinking we were trying to make a hit or trying to make something for radio. I just remember trying to make it musically great and not really worrying about anything else. I think thatā€™s why those records we did together did so well. We werenā€™t pandering.

RAITT: It was just a surprise for a few years there, we actually got played on pop radio. None of us had any idea it was going to be that big a hit.

WAS: Itā€™s one of those performances that is so powerful that it changes the definition of what the popular music of the time is. They played it on pop radio stations.

SHAMBLIN: Iā€™d be lying if I said I was surprised by [ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ becoming a hit] because I saw the impact the song was having on people and I felt like Mike and I had been given a gift, the song, that touched a primal place in peopleā€™s hearts. It was universal. I was so overwhelmed to be a part of the song when we finished it, and then to have Bonnie record it. If it wouldā€™ve stopped right there, I would have been happy today, because it was born. Bonnie gave birth to it. She brought it into the world and gave it life in the best possible way. So anything after that was just a huge blessing. Iā€™m just thankful for it all.

In the years since the success of Luck Of The Draw and ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me,ā€ the song has taken on a different stature. Itā€™s become a standard of sorts, perennially covered by stars like George Michael, Prince, and Boyz II Men, and younger artists like Adele, Katy Perry, Bon Iver, SOAK, and Allen Stone. Itā€™s taken on a different kind of immortality than just being a big song from a now-legendary artist. Itā€™s one of those moments when a track becomes part of the popular lexicon: brought into the world by a particular group of people and inherently always defined by them, yet also somehow much bigger than what they did twenty-five years ago.

HORNSBY: I [play it at] my solo concerts and here is why. My solo concerts are musically, harmonically adventurous outings and I regularly inflict so much dissonance on my poor unsuspecting audience that I try to balance that with songs that they know so since I am related to this, since I am part of the record.

ALLEN STONE (PERFORMER): Itā€™s difficult to break down exactly what draws one to a song. There can be such a precise science to the gravity of specific pieces of music. Time, place, chord progression, singer, tones. It can all be put under a microscope. Every time I hear Bonnie sing that song though it feels right.

SOAK (PERFORMER): For me, itā€™s the ultimate love song, because it describes so much and everybody can sympathize with it. The whole meaning behind the song is beautiful, but just the melodies in it, and the structure of the song ā€¦ itā€™s the most incredible chorus ever.

KATY PERRY (PERFORMER): I rarely perform covers because I enjoy sharing my personal life stories when I sing. ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ is an exception because it strikes such a personal chord in me, and in everyone who hears it.

SOAK: When we were recording, for me the main thing was just singing it as if it was my song. Itā€™s the most stereotypical thing, but feel it as youā€™re playing it. I put myself in those shoes.

STONE: I just wanted to sing a song that I really loved. Now if Bonnie had been in the audience, yeah, I wouldā€™ve been shitting myself.

SOAK: Any great song can be played on one instrument. Transposing it to guitar was easy. I think I wanted to get the soul of the song. The recording is just straight-up vocal and guitar because we didnā€™t want to clutter it with any other instruments or any other melody. It didnā€™t need it. I just wanted to be as honest and open as possible. Sometimes I nearly dread playing it at the end of shows. When I play it, I think of ways the lyrics have happened in my life, situations like that have happened around me. To play it, and put yourself in that position, can be really emotionally draining and quite scary as well, to be that honest with people.

STONE: There is a lot of space in that song. A lot of room for the vocal to shine. Those are always fun songs to sing. When you have room and space to dance with your voice.

HORNSBY: Bonnie is one of those singers that people might refer to as a ā€œphonebook singer.ā€ She could sing the phonebook and would give you chills. So when Iā€™m singing it, the main thought that is going through my head is ā€œCome on, do better!ā€

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SOAK: When I was a bit younger, I stumbled upon the Bon Iver cover of the song on YouTube. I remember hearing it and was amazed at how simple and straightforward the song was, but how incredible of a song it was. After I heard his version, I looked up Bonnie Raitt and got into all her stuff. It was my first introduction to the song.

REID: I mean, I donā€™t even know what to say other than itā€™s a beyond delight, or beyond meaningful, that a kid addresses that song, that that song has tended to have a life across generations.

STONE: I really like Bon Iverā€™s version. The sentiment he invokes is very special. He takes his time. Presents the song through his own lens. I really dig when an artist can take something, add a bit of themselves to it but also not take away from the original.

RAITT: [Justin Vernonā€™s] was a total surprise. Somebody sent it to me, and he put a little bit of ā€œNick Of Timeā€ on the end of it. We became friends right after. I called him within a couple of days, it was great. We just lost Prince, and I thought his version was very beautiful.

WAS: Prince cut a version of it and you listen to it for a while and heā€™s such a great singer and you can marvel at the technique but then he gets to the vamp and he says something like ā€œCome here, baby, I am going to sex you up,ā€ or something like that. Heā€™s got no idea what the song is about. I have never heard a guy who can sing it. I donā€™t know if a guy can sing the song.

REID: Somebody told me George Michael sang ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ on Unplugged on MTV. Not long after that, weā€™re sitting here, my wife and I, flipping the channels, looking for something, and we go across MTV Unplugged and thereā€™s George Michael! And I thought, ā€œWow, this has to be the show where heā€™s gonna sing that.ā€ And damn if the next thing he didnā€™t sing, he said, ā€œWell, Iā€™m gonna sing one of my all-time favorite songs. It was recorded by the wondrous Bonnie Raitt. And it was written by ā€¦ well, actually, I donā€™t know who wrote this.ā€ [laughs] I laughed, and my wife got mad, so I didnā€™t have to. She said, ā€œHe should know that! He should know that!ā€ I said ā€œNo, no, no.ā€ To know that the song lives in the world and people donā€™t know who wrote it, Iā€™m good with that. Iā€™m good with that. Iā€™d rather that than people know a bunch of songs you wrote and no one can remember them. If I disappear and no one has a clue about my name, Iā€™m good if I know somewhere, someone is singing that song.

RAITT: Iā€™ve heard [Michaelā€™s] version. I have not heard all the versions that I know there are, but Iā€™m always fascinated. Iā€™d have to say right up there was a live version that Aretha Franklin did. I was in the audience and she stopped and said, ā€œIā€™d like to sing a special song for somebody in the audience tonightā€ and she proceeded to sing ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me.ā€ Sheā€™s my all-time favorite female singer, so, you knowā€¦

REID: A legendary jazz-pop singer, Nancy Wilson, did a fantastic, gorgeous rendition of that song. Thereā€™s an R&B singer named Tank, great version. According to [Shamblin], thereā€™s been over 550 covers of that thing.

CHERNEY: I know a lot of great singers really quote that as a benchmark for a ballad. I donā€™t think anyone comes close to what Bonnie did.

SHAMBLIN: I donā€™t want this to come off as dismissive of anybody else, because Iā€™m really grateful, Iā€™m thankful, but there are actually versions, like Bon Iverā€™s ā€¦ someone told me recently that they thought that was the recording. Theyā€™re young, eighteen years old. So thatā€™s the version theyā€™re familiar with. And I said, ā€œWell, you gotta go hear Bonnie Raittā€™s version.ā€ Itā€™s touched people in a way where theyā€™ve wanted to cover it. So the breadcrumb trail always goes back to Bonnie when I start talking about covers.

HORNSBY: I can see why itā€™s covered. Itā€™s a truly great song. I think that most people who listen to popular music of any style ā€” and this is a generalization ā€” but most people are looking for a great song sung well. This is a great song sung amazingly by one of the great singers, so thatā€™s how I would describe this songā€™s enduring popularity.

REID: Iā€™ve been in restaurants where people have butchered it at a piano and Iā€™m touched by it. I love anyone who tries to sing it. I donā€™t care if they do it well or not. [laughs] Itā€™s beyond me, the life of the song, for it to have this long, slow climb up the mountain, which means I think itā€™ll be around for generations. For any writer to have the capacity to plan something like that would be idiocy. Iā€™m along for the ride.

Reflecting on the scope and reach of the song as it turns 25, many of those involved in its writing or recording are still half-speechless when it comes to summing up their experiences. It still comes across as something that none of them ever expected, making them all the more grateful and stunned that it happened, and that the song continues to resonate with people across generations or genres.

PERRY: I canā€™t believe weā€™re celebrating itā€™s 25th anniversary. This is timeless songwriting that never goes out of style.

STONE: Itā€™s amazing. I saw her perform that song a couple months back and to this day she sings it with conviction. Bonnieā€™s been singing that song for several decades and can still sing it with sense and emotion. That is monumental, when the writer and singer can believe in and present a song years and years after itā€™s been written and given to the world.

WAS: Her interpretation of the song, like a jazz musician, evolves nightly. I just heard her sing it live a couple months ago and it was just incredible. She keeps finding nuances and changing the phrasing a little bit, and you see a difference.

HORNSBY: We just played this together [a few] weeks ago at the Berkeley Theatre and it was beautiful. I love doing it with her and I think she felt the same.

WAS: Thereā€™s a strength in the way that she sings it on the record. Like sheā€™s saying ā€œI can deal with this.ā€ Itā€™s not weepy. Itā€™s not mournful. Itā€™s not woeful. It makes you admire the singer. You can tell that it hurts but that sheā€™s got the strength to deal with it. Itā€™s a really exotic blend. I donā€™t think she ever sang it quite like that but I wouldnā€™t even dare to compare performances because I was so moved by the most recent interpretation I heard this year, which was totally fresh and equally emotional.

HORNSBY: Well Iā€™ve done a lot of records through the years and I also cite that as being possibly being the record that I have played on for another artist that I am the most proud of. And Bonnie and I are like brother and sister, but I feel like she has been a big sister of mine for 28 years.

CHERNEY: Itā€™s a little like it happened to somebody else. Itā€™s one of those times where everything comes together ā€¦ itā€™s one of the most perfect-sounding songs Iā€™ve ever worked on. And Iā€™ve been doing this over 40 years.

RAITT: Every interview, they say, ā€œHow do you feel about the impact that the song has had?ā€ The Voice, or American Idol ā€¦ Carrie Underwood auditioned with it. I think thatā€™s either what she auditioned with or she sang it on the show. Thereā€™s a lot of young people that are in their early twenties and through their forties that found me because of that song and, I mean, what a great legacy to have such an incredible bunch of different age groups come up and tell you how much the song has meant to you. I check in my luggage at the airport and some guy goes, ā€œHey! ā€˜I Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€™ is the only song that makes me cry.ā€

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WAS: I didnā€™t write it and I didnā€™t sing it. I didnā€™t even play on it. But strangers used to come up to me in airports. Like a guy would come up and say ā€œMy wife just keeps playing the song over and over looking out the window and crying.ā€ [laughs] Women would come up and say ā€œItā€™s going pretty bad in my life and I didnā€™t know how to contextualize it, but that song makes sense out of it.ā€ That went on for at least ten years. Like, total strangers. That is your goal, really, to help people understand their own lives through music. Bonnie probably got to experience it by going out and performing it live in front of audiences every night.

RAITT: The number of people that have written me letters saying that theyā€™ve never seen their husband in tears until they watch him watch me sing that song in concert ā€¦ it just makes me feel very, very proud and very grateful.

CHERNEY: To this day when I hear it, Iā€™m still moved. They had the audio engineering show in Los Angeles a couple weeks ago and I was invited. JBL was showing off some of its speakers and they invited me to come in and I played that. The breath came out of everybody at the same time. I was still moved, and everybody in the room was moved, and, boy, it made those speakers sound fucking great, too. [laughs]

The number of people that have written me letters saying that theyā€™ve never seen their husband in tears until they watch him watch me sing that song in concert ā€¦ it just makes me feel very, very proud and very grateful.ā€Ø

REID: You know, itā€™s an enormous, enormous gratitude. Iā€™m sorry, Iā€™m entering old age, and, you know, I wanna be as clear about this as I can: itā€™s gratitude, and it inspires what I genuinely hope is an authentic humility.

SHAMBLIN: Mike and I have talked about it. It feels like the worldā€™s song. It came through us and itā€™s like having a baby or a child that grows up to do something really great. All you can do is be proud of your child, and thankful.

REID: I am constantly, as a songwriter, in my own way. When I can get out of my own way, those things that want to be said, the ideas that are in the world, are there. So when I hear itā€™s a young kid thatā€™s singing that song, I donā€™t even feel ā€¦ I mean, I know we wrote it and it came out of us, but really, at this point, we donā€™t really walk around feeling as though weā€™re the writers of that song. It just had its own life.

CHERNEY: Iā€™m so honored and just so proud of being part of the records we made, me and Don and Bonnie. It was a real special time. We were younger, and when youā€™re doing that, you think, oh, you can do that any time. But not understanding that this is a real special moment in time that is probably never going to happen again in your lifetime.

WAS: You just knew it, man. Once we cut it, we knew that once something like this comes along ā€” if it comes along once a decade, youā€™re lucky. We knew that that would be tough to follow. I donā€™t think we were all that daunted about following up Nick Of Time. But there was something about that song, ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Me.ā€ I knew it was gonna be a while before somebody wrote something else that was that good.

ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ Stuns As Bonnie Raitt Channels Heartbreak At Grammys

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34th Annual Grammy Awards, 1992

Written in 1990 by country music songwriting giants Mike Reid and Allen Shamblin, 1991ā€™s smash hit ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ became one of Bonnie Raittā€™s most successful singles to date, hailed universally by critics for the audible ache in her voice as she details the heartbreak of being the loser in a one-sided relationship. Featured on Raittā€™s Grammy Award winning album Luck Of The Draw, ā€œI Canā€™t Make You Love Meā€ may not have taken home a Grammy at the 1992 Grammy Awards, but it definitely stole the show when Bonnie took the stage that night with piano accompanist Bruce Hornsby and for nearly 5 minutes rendered an audience full of musicians, songwriters and industry professionals silent.

Sitting on a stool beside the piano and bathed in spotlight, Bonnieā€™s pain is real and itā€™s up close and personal for the entire world to see, finally giving a face to what Steve Hochman of Los Angeles Times hailed the song as ā€œone of Raittā€™s most elegant tracksā€ in a performance that wowed with both its quiet, austere setting and emotionally charged subject matter.

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